If "He's Just Not That Into Me", has anyone ever been?
Okay, so most of you know me, and therefore know that I am a few weeks out of a relationship. I won't say much about it, other than the fact that it ended sucked, mainly because I actually liked the guy. This is sort of an anomaly in itself, because I usually realize about a week after the relationship's end that he's a moron and I tend to bounce back faster than the elastic on a fat girl's bra strap, but this time it seems to be different.Regardless, my sister sent me this book that has been all over Oprah and is hailed as the new single girl's bible. It was written by the writers of "Sex and the City" and entitled, "He's Just Not That Into You."
My sister sent me this with a note, saying "Mom told me to send you this...it's funny, in that painful sort of way." I read the note and think, "How painful could this possibly be?" So I saved it for last Sunday (laundromat day), and once the clothes were settled into the washer, I sat down to read.
Each chapter details the types of excuses women make for men, and how many (if not most) of these excuses seem to add up to the inevitable conclusion that "he's just not that into you". Doesn't call? He's not that into you. Gives you his number? Not that into you. Needs "space"? Not that into you.
Let's just say that after 40 minutes of reading, I was glad there weren't any sharp objects in sight, because while feeling totally enlightened to the male species in a way I never had been, I simultaneously felt sad and pathetic, because I came to the inevitable conclusion that I'm not sure any guy has "ever been that into me". Let me tell you how depressing this thought really is.
When I told my sister how I felt after reading, she laughed and reminded me of a guy I dated for a couple of years in college. She said, "Don't you remember? You broke up with him, but he was completely crazy about you." I replied, "Well yeah, but I think that intense, manipulative midgets being the wrong guys was implicitly mentioned somewhere in Chapter 10..."
I think I am having too much fun with the wrong guys. At least I admit it.
posted by KA @ 6:59 PM
1 Comments:
Hi, thanks for the comments.
To address your question, I think this whole "bad guy" thing works both ways. Isn't it true that it's a whole lot more fun for a guy to chase a girl around with the thrill of catching her still questionable, rather than someone who always answers the phone and is always available to hang out?
I think guys RUN - not walk - from a girl who is too readily available. It's a fine line between thinking you're going to f^&k with someone and realizing that you're past playing games.
I am working on an upcoming post that reiterates this to some effect - stay tuned!
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