Meeting Quality People Is Hard
Remember these hilarious losers from "Best in Show"? They met at two Starbucks located across the street from one another.
I went out to lunch today with a friend/client, Jules. Trying to get off the topic of work, we started talking about how her friend met some guy through Friendster and now they are going on a date. I guess the girl saw the guy's profile on the site, started emailing him, and as I speak they're probably putting perfume/cologne on their pulse points or unmentionables in the hopes of getting some action and getting ready for an awkward two-hour dinner before they finally decide to drink a little to loosen up and end up making out in the back of a cab where some driver from Nepal is talking to his girlfriend on his cell phone.
Now, I have to hand it to this girl. She has balls. I don't think I could ever be that aggressive. I'd much rather have the guy approach me, and to be honest, I usually have that happen often enough to where I don't have to take the initiative. (Part of this is pride, but the other part is admittedly laziness.) But maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to ask a guy out.
So Jules and I are talking, and we're like, "Hmm....where could we meet quality people if we wanted to ask them out?" We were both a little skeptical of online dating, so that's ruled out. Bars are kind of tough, because most people are out for a no-strings-attached hookup, so that's probably not the best idea. Plus, throw the drunk factor in there, and that's just a big mess. Through friends seems like a plan, but if things don't work out that always threatens to put your friendship with the mutual friend in jeopardy. The gym is a viable option, but is anyone thinking about meeting people while they're wheezing on the treadmill? And finally, there's Starbucks. Starbucks, or your good old coffee joint. But I don't think that any male I've ever gone out with, much less any male friend I have, goes to Starbucks. And if they even go, it's probably to run in and get something to drink. No one actually goes to meet people. It's usually just a crowd of people engrossed in their laptops, or pretending to read "War and Peace" so you'll think they're f*cking literate geniuses. So where is a good place to meet quality people?
Also, the problem for girls is that if you're sort of old-fashioned, like I am, you assume that no guy ever wants to be approached by a girl. I figure that if he likes me enough, he'll probably grow a sac and do something about it. But is this true? Is it acceptable, or even preferred, to let girls call the shots?
If so, then I'm headed to Starbucks tomorrow morning to try and catch myself an Adam Brody lookalike.
posted by KA @ 5:49 PM
5 Comments:
John,
Okay, yes, you make some good points. I've met a lot of guys at the bar, and I have gone out with some of them, but look how that ended up? I know I can't base everything off of past experience, but if everyone that ever goes to a bar is like me, you usually go for three reasons:
a. to drink
b. to have fun with your friends
c. to people watch/b.s. with new people
d. all of the above
Note that there is no reason e. finding someone who you could hang out with on a regularly.
Plus there is the flip side - the "drunken q factor". If someone is beyond a certain point of wasted, usually they're sweet-talking you to get you home, and so they'll ask for your number, say all kinds of shit, etc. Then, a week later, you'll be trying to convince yourself that they haven't called due to death in the family (see previous post on Phone Etiquette excuses). If it's a lady in this situation, she'll usually give you every indication that she's interested and then not return any of your phone calls. That is where drunken q comes into play, and that gets really confusing.
my vote goes to the airport. i know it sounds odd, but i'm tellin' you man...the airport is the way to go. i myself met a boy in the airport bar on my way home from thanksgiving with the fam. the entire plane ride home i thought about the fact that i never meet boys, at least not once worth even 5 minutes of my time, let alone a boy that is worth more than the 20 minutes i have before i need to catch my flight. while thinking about the fact that i had just met quite the catch i realized that my brother's best friend damien had recently met a girl he thinks may be the proverbial "one"-where? at the airport. and my friend jason is in a quality relationship with a chica he met- where? in the airport.
still not convinced? here are some pros and cons
pro: they're in an airport, which means they travel, which is hot in itself, but which also means goodbye flights that are long and boring-hello mile high club!
con: they more likely than not live in a completely different state, maybe even different country than you. although, if you're a glass half full kinda kid then that could also be a pro...if they end up sucking you don't have to worry about ever seeing or talking to them again.
pro/con: going along with that last one. if they don't suck and you live in dif. states you can always just do what my hottie-tottie-airport boy and i do which i talk on email and the phone until one of us gets motivated enough to plan a way for us to actually meet again.
pro: airport alcohol is expensive...if they buy you a drink, think of all the money you save!
pro: they can make that 2 or 3 hour lay over much more interesting. again, if they suck...just say you gotta go catch your flight and you're golden.
anyway, i could go on and on making shit up about the positive and negative aspects to men in general, let alone men in airports, but i shall spare you.
so go start earning those frequent flier miles missy! what have you got to lose? other than all the money you'll be spending on travel expenses and possibly your life in one of those horrific plane crashes as seen on television. knock on wood.
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Excellent suggestion!
I am flying to Cleveland in the beginning of February...you think there are any winners on that flight?
Also, I vote Southwest as airline with most hotness potential. Not because they're necessarily great, but because a lot of youngsters like myself prefer really inexpensive, direct flights. I want my hottie to be fiscally conservative, but not cheap. I've also seen some lookers on there in the past, but unfortunately not on Cleveland flights.
i'll second that thought on the southwest boys. thrifty and nifty are definitely pluses in my book. as for the clevland potential, i got nothin. sorry. but, if nothing else you can always scope out the chicago airport. there are always so many delays that you're bound to find a hottie or 2 in need of someone to kill time with. and by kill time i mean make out.
may the force be with you.
or something.
-s
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