Confessions of A Naughty Girl

You Gots to Check 'Em

Okay, here's the deal - I am sick of people's shit. Over it, done. After a rough weekend, which involved many little situations escalating until I threatened to punch some guy in the face at a party last night (which was totally warranted, but I digress), I have two choices: I can either write a long, ranting post about it, or I should consider some anger management school. I'm not exactly rolling in dough these days, so I've opted for the former.

Carrie Bradshaw once said, "Isn't delayed gratification the definition of maturity?" Well, maybe. But what I think defines maturity in relationships is the ability to determine what you want and what you don't want. And if you're stuck in a friendship, relationship, any situation, where someone isn't treating you the way that you think you should be treated, the definition of maturity is being able to see that, and to kick them to the f*cking curb.

There's a great wise saying in Hebrew (my second tongue) that translates to, "If I am not for me, who will be for me? And if not now, when?" If I don't think that I'm a hot catch who deserves to have someone treat me like a gem, who else is going to think that for me? That's step one. But here's the thing - it's easy to have that mentality, but the hard part is enforcing it. Too often I see my girlfriends stuck in relationships and situations where the guy is a total dick. And a girl has only a few choices: she can make excuse after excuse for the guy, she can get sick of the bullshit and walk away or trade up, or she can live miserably for the rest of her life knowing that her boyfriend is a piece of crap. As I like to say, you gotta call a spade a spade, or a douchebag and douchebag, and hope that there's something better out there.

Anyone who knows me really well can attest to the sort of embarrassing fact that "Two Can Play That Game" is one of my favorite movies. (If you haven't seen it, you might want to check it out.) And one of the best parts of the movie is when Vivica Fox says, "When your man starts acting up, check 'em. You gots to check 'em." That said, I have decided to start checking people that are really pissing me off. And by checking them, I mean kicking them to the curb.

The guy that you've been waiting for that won't ask you out? Check 'em. The guy who likes to mindf*ck you with every opportunity he gets? Check 'em. It's really not that hard. The most powerful reaction is usually silence. Use it to your advantage.

And with that, I'm going to get back to checking people, and get back to looking for a good guy that's going to act like a real man. Hallelujah.

posted by KA @ 8:37 PM