An Open Letter To All Future Houseguests and Wedding Dates
Based on the nightmare that was caused by hosting my friend/date to a mutual friend's wedding last weekend, I found myself issuing the following email on Monday morning. Readers, please take this as serious warning for what not to do if you are ever to stay with/escort me to anything...ever.------------------------------------------------------------
(Houseguest name here):
Address to mail a check is as follows:
(my address here)
As a reminder, the gift was $50 (plus tax) and if you could add $20 for gas expenses, that should help to cover it.
Per our conversation this weekend, it's interesting to watch people change over the years - sometimes for better, sometimes for worse. There may have been a lot that has changed for you but what unfortunately hasn't changed, as demonstrated this weekend, is that you will still throw your friends or anyone else under the bus to get a piece of ass.
I chose to act like a lady and to not confront you and embarrass you in front of (witnesses) this morning, but the truth of the matter is that I am offended and disgusted with how I was treated. I bent over backwards for you - even going so far as to buy you your favorite kind of (rare) beer - and to make sure that your weekend was easier and you had a great time without having to concern yourself with details. From Saturday evening on, I was treated like an inconvenience to you - and more specifically, yesterday, which was the day of our friend's wedding and a day that we should have all celebrated together. Instead, I ended up spending the majority of the evening with (witness), who, despite not having not spoken to him in over two years, behaved like a gentleman and was incredibly gracious.
I didn't mind hosting you or driving you so that you didn't have to spend money on a hotel/car, and I acknowledge that you thanked me for it, but to expect me to pick you up from wherever you decide to crash, and to put me in the compromising position that you placed me in at 4 am this morning when you, (witness), and two wedding guests arrived at my apartment complex with (bride's) car and a flat tire and slept on my floor, is taking advantage of my hospitality and blatantly disrespectful. What astounds me further is that in spite of the audacity you displayed in asking me to host you in the middle of the night (when I have to work the next morning, and there were plenty of hotels available, not to mention cab service), is that you asked if I could leave a spare key with you so that you and three other people I barely know can use my apartment in the morning as some sort of pit stop on your way to the airport and while you figure out how to fix the bride's car (which, tangentially, I can't even imagine how furious I would be in her shoes). I know you understand that I was absolutely justified in refusing this request.
I may be a good friend, but I am not a doormat. I am not a housing facility for people who don't plan ahead and/or are too frugal to reserve a hotel room and/or make appropriate arrangements. I suspected when you asked me to go to the wedding as your guest despite having received an invitation on my own, that it was motivated by being offered a place to stay, and I'm sad to say that my suspicion was correct. I chose to open my home to you and expected nothing in return (not even expecting an offer for lunch or dinner as a thank you, knowing that's not your style) except for your respect, and did not even receive that as a minimum. You placed your own selfish, inexplicable need to hook up with some hippie from Oregon who you'll probably never see again in your life, over what you told me last week was your objective this weekend - to see myself and your other friends and to stand up for your friend at his wedding. How disappointing.
As such, I'll expect something in the mail within the next week.
posted by KA @ 6:17 PM
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